I’m spending my lunch hour reading other blogs and articles on narcissistic abuse and came across this pic. I have Greg Zaffuto’s book: From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist and when I saw this, I related to EVERY single tool Greg describes. How can every narcissist be so much the same? Everything I read is ‘me’ and Sarge…this is a blue print of what our relationship was all about. And I took it. I allowed it. And I need to understand why.
This is what I know: Narcissists aren’t going to change. They use their tools well. And the hurt from each of these tools is cumulative until you’ve been so beaten down by them so much, you are simply unrecognizable.